Yes I still do Pro-Domination and Fetish Sessions
Answering a few questions I’ve been asked recently!
Over the last few weeks I have been asked several questions from both men and women. Those Questions were about me still doing Pro-Domination and Fetish Sessions now that my age and body sized changed as well as me RVing. I have to say that I was pleased by the fact that those questions were asked very politely and respectful. I guess sometimes people just get curious and / or buy into particular hype they see or read.
Now I am figuring that since those subjects came up there might be others who are curious. I know for a fact that many Ladies might find some of those questions offensive, but I honestly don’t. I understand where they might come up looking around these days.
Instead of doing them in an F.A.Q. style I’ll simply answer them in a conversational manner. So come on in, take a seat in my virtual living room and imagine sharing a cup of coffee or tea with me.
Let me address the one that most people would be afraid to ask first for fear of offending me or someone like me. Yes having grown older and having gained a somewhat substantial amount of weight did have an impact. To claim otherwise would be in insult to your intelligence. I mean let’s be honest I don’t fit the idea of a Model Domme in the least. Most of us don’t look in our 40’s the same way we looked in our late teens and 20’s. That’s just life period.
I’ve always been a bigger Lady, with most of my life wearing anywhere from a 14/16 to an 18/20. I don’t even remember ever wearing a much smaller size then that. I think the smallest amount of weight I ever weight as an adult was 145lbs.
Yes I am used to being a bigger sized Lady pretty much all my adult life. That didn’t mean it wasn’t a shock to me or that I didn’t have to get used to suddenly gaining a rather large amount of weight right after I turned 40. I went from wearing a size 18/20 to maybe a size 24/26 or 26/28 depending on brand and style within a year. It was insane what my body was doing to me and I hadn’t change anything. I just happened to hit a not so much fun time in a woman’s life that can really wreck all sorts of havoc.
Now again I am not that silly to think that those who aren’t into really big women would want to continue seeing me and paying me for a session. I had went from being average / small BBW sized to solid BBW and in the society we have today many would see me as fat. Stop before you get angry. Fat is just another word. It really doesn’t bother me towards myself. I am not that sensitive about it.
Add to it that in general you really don’t see that many more mature BBW Pro-Dommes out there, especially here in on the West Coast and yes it wasn’t as frequent as it once was. Not to mention that there for the first year or so I had to slay my own Demons on that. I had lost some of my confidence when dealing with those physical changes. Ironically my Age was never a problem for me, I was battling the weight changes in me. Thankfully so that didn’t last too long and I ended up learning not to care what other people thought about it once more.
I re-developed the same attitude I had when I was a smaller Me and that attitude is – You don’t like what you see don’t look and you are the one missing out here! Oh and of course I dealt with the same stupidity that so many of us women who go through changes deal with even in my personal life. You have no idea how stupid guys and even other women can be at times. It’s amazing to me that we as a species haven’t stopped to exist sometimes with all the ignorance that is flung around.
Once I regained myself-esteem again so and remembered that the only thing that really had changed about me was my weight and that rest of me was still fabulous, I did start offering and accepting the occasional Pro-Domination and Fetish Session appointment again.
Like I said I am not sure what it is about the West Coast, but they are not big Domme friendly. They may “suffer” a Lady to be bigger if they get their kicks for free, but don’t you dare charge for your time, experience and skills. That however really wasn’t my problem as much as theirs. They are the ones who had the issue at that point and many lost out because of it.
Now the one thing that did change was the way I presented myself in text when I announced the rules, my requirements and the opportunities. I made damn sure that they KNEW they were going to see this more mature and bigger Goddess. Oh my gosh you have no idea how many times I was told I really shouldn’t put myself down like that, but I wasn’t putting myself down at all. I was stating facts and making sure that those who would come to see Me wouldn’t be disappointed or feel lied to once they saw me. As well meaning as those “corrections” were, they just reinforced how people in general tend to view words like “older”, “more mature”, “BBW / Fat Domme” and how they were offended by that. I think up to this day that biggest part of the “battle” I have to fight, because I don’t see a problem with those words when describing myself. They are true and that doesn’t mean I don’t love myself just the way I am.
Yes it did make things harder and the sessions became less. Most of my real time Pro-Domination and Fetish sessions where with Gentlemen subs who ironically flew in from the Midwest and the East Coast. I don’t think I ever saw a local sub in Las Vegas after the changes took place. So in a way I cherished and really enjoyed the ones I did have with my good boys and I several of them knew me and had enjoyed our sessions before. I called them truer subs then those shallow Hals who instead of looking for experience were just looking for “hotness”. I wouldn’t have wanted them anyways, those make me kind of sick. Even before I gained the weight.
Now once I started full time RVing it was a real turn over in my little stable of submissive, because now even the online or long distance subs I had were acting like they suddenly lost their minds. They had stuck with me through getting older and gaining weight without a problem, but once I told them I wanted to give up my house and play area (dungeon spot) it was as if I kicked their puppy. Shakes head sadly. That was an eye opener.
Traveling the way I do has many fun points, but it does have some serious handicaps too when offering Pro-Domination and Fetish sessions. For one I am never really in highly populated places. I got sick of Metropolitan Cities after having been in Las Vegas for roughly 14 years. Most of the time in areas where there might be a City within 40 to 50 miles of me, but the actual location is often in or around small Town.
Now I am still on the West Coast as well and I already addressed that issue. Time limitations are also an issue now since I can’t really set appointments up one or two months in advance. You never know when something happens and I can’t make it to the location I had plan on. So I offer them only when I arrived with a heads up notice and then you usually only have a 7 or sometimes 14 days opportunity while I am in my heavier travel schedule.
That’s usually from late spring to early Autumn. Winters I usually stay in a 50 to 80 mile radius of the general area and just go RV Resort to RV Resort. I don’t like traveling in the Winter that much.
So location changes, shorter time frame opportunities, me not really advertising on big places like Eros Guide, and being in smaller Towns all add into it. Since I have been on the Road which is at the point roughly 2 1/2 years now I have accepted and enjoyed only 2 Pro-Domination Sessions. Which is pitiful really and trust me I miss it, but in a way that is the price I have to pay for having my traveling dream.
Ever so often I still offer up opportunities. Now I do them in a Motel Room well unless you don’t mind being a sissy or a smoke slave in my RV. There really isn’t any space for any other types of sessions. Which means that yes I have to do things a bit different too. I am not going to waste money on renting a Motel Room if I am not sure I’ll have a Session that day to recover the cost. Remember traveling in the RV the way I do is pretty darn expensive on it’s own.
That of course means you have to request the appointment for the following day, pay the deposit so I am sure you aren’t going to flake out, and then give me roughly 30 min. to an hour to email you the location since at the point I’ll make reservations in a Motel Room.
Another thing I need to make sure of is knowing the Area specific laws. In some regions certain things are tolerated while others are a total no no. Oh and once again my “love” for the West Coast shows through, I have to get it through the seekers head that NO I am not offering you any type of prostitution and that I am Domme not a “hooker with a whip”. Grumbles, sorry dears that’s a real sore spot with me these days. It’s actually one of the top reasons why I had to reject several appointment requests.
Truthfully I was really disappointed that my East Coast Trip had to be cancelled again this year, because I can’t wait to get out from the West Coast in the kinky fetish department. From what I hear and remember the Midwest and closer to East Coast is a lot more mature BBW Femdom friendly. So I am hoping that I get to do my trip soon.
On that note…. Until August 6th 2016 I am able and willing to accept Pro-Domination and Fetish Session Request for Tillamook Oregon only. I am only about 22.7 miles from there right now and don’t mind making the trip. I have also added an opportunity for the financial fetish boys as well.
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Yes I am holding them apart!
Well I think that was pretty straight forward as far as answering your questions. At least I tried to be as transparent as I can be about it.
Goddess Bella Donna